Heather is a friend of mine who lives in Iowa. She was kind enough to share her story, even though we weren't able to do a photo shoot. She has since had her baby girl, Ellie Nicole on November 3. Congratulations, Heather and Clint!
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Clint and I were married in August
2008. After a little over a year we both felt like it was time to
start our family. We knew it would probably be a little difficult
for us because I didn’t ovulate regularly. I tried using ovulation
tests and taking my base temperature, but neither seemed to help.
After trying on our own for a little over a year, we decided to go to
a doctor and see if we could try Chlomid.
At my first doctor’s visit, I
explained our situation and told my doctor that I wanted to try
Chlomid. She informed me that our insurance would cover diagnosis,
but not infertility treatment. Because of this, she suggested that
we do some other tests before starting Chlomid to make sure there
weren’t any other problems so that we wouldn’t have to pay for
the tests later on.
After about 3 months of lots of tests
my doctor concluded that there weren’t any additional problems and
that we should go ahead with Chlomid. I was a little annoyed that I
had gone through all of that just for her to tell me what I already
knew, but I guess better safe than sorry, right?
So I started Chlomid. A little while
later we started getting bills for all the tests they had done that
our insurance was supposed to cover. We went back and forth between
the insurance company and the doctor’s office, each blaming the
other for the uncovered costs. After everything, we ended up having
to pay for most of the tests which had all turned out to be
unnecessary. Needless to say, the stress of dealing with all of that
didn’t make trying to get pregnant any easier.
After being on Chlomid for 3 months, I
still wasn’t pregnant. My doctor’s office told me that they
would no longer work with me and that if I wanted to continue going
to a doctor that I needed to see a specialist. I was really upset
that they were just blowing me off after 3 months and wished we had a
little more time to try using Chlomid. I felt like there wasn’t
anything a specialist would tell me that I didn’t already know. I
was kind of fed up with doctors, so I felt like I needed a break from
them.
Over the next few months we still kept
trying to get pregnant but started to think about our other options.
I had always thought it would be a great experience to adopt, but
always figured I would have my own kids first and then think about
it. But maybe we should adopt first and our own kids would come
later. Or maybe we should try going to a specialist and see what
they had to say.
In March of this year I told myself
(and God) that I was giving it one more month. If I wasn’t
pregnant by April I was done trying. I had been on an emotional
rollercoaster for 2 ½ years and I was exhausted.
I guess God knows our limits because
at the end of March we found out that I was pregnant! So far things
have been going really well with the pregnancy. Our little girl is
due December 4th and we couldn’t be more excited to meet
her!
I know that everything happens for a
reason. Looking back on our experience, I can see some reasons why
maybe things needed to happen the way they did. But in the midst of
a trial, it’s never easy to see why you have to go through it. It
was so easy to feel discouraged, hopeless and broken. Satan
definitely worked hard on me during this time. But I had an
important lesson to learn. Sometimes having faith doesn’t mean
that everything will work out the way you want it to. Sometimes your
faith is simply what helps you make it through.
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